Living an Anger-Free Lifestyle

By on December 17, 2013 in Anger, Self Improvement, Wellness Concerns with 0 Comments

anger-free-lifestyleEveryone gets angry. Whether we’re cursing the man who cut us off in traffic or upset about a friend not returning our call, from time to time, we all feel our blood pressure start to rise and our minds race with fantasies of revenge or feelings of seething anger. No matter how many times we hear that holding onto anger and resentment can cause more than just a bad day—anger is a stress and contributes to everything from heart disease to depression—we just don’t always want to let it go. Sometimes we don’t know how to let it go, and few of us realize that our lifestyles factor into how often we get mad, what sets us off, and how easily we let go of our anger.

Leading a balanced lifestyle can drastically reduce our anger. We might not see the link between our Occupational Wellness and our anger, but it’s there. It might never dawn on us that our Physical Wellness could make us more or less susceptible to getting mad, but it’s true. Anger is an Emotional Wellness issue, but our Environmental Wellness has a lot to do with it as well. Every aspect of our wellness, from Social Wellness to Intellectual Wellness to Spiritual Wellness, has an affect on how well we manage our anger—or whether or not we get angry at all!

Our lifestyles affect how we feel. When we’re out of shape, constantly fatigued and under stress, we’re a lot more likely to get irritated or enraged by even the slightest transgressions. When we’re feeling out of balance, we’re much more likely to see others as having it better than we do—and this can make it that much easier to fly off the handle at a moment’s notice.

Our lifestyles also let us know how we feel about ourselves. When we don’t show that we care for ourselves, the impression we give is that we don’t care about ourselves, and this sends us seeking happiness from external sources. When we’re not taking steps toward a balanced lifestyle on a personal level, we tend to look to the world to supply us with the peace we lack.

When the world doesn’t do for us what we could be doing for ourselves, we get angry. We never stop to wonder if our anger is really toward ourselves. Anger is generally a product of fear—and fear is generally worry over losing something we have or not getting something we want. When you’re taking care of yourself, you’re a lot less likely to be afraid…and a lot less likely to get angry.

Think about it. If you’re walking through life feeling balanced—comfortable in your own skin, taking care of yourself, getting your needs met and pursuing your dreams—aren’t you less likely to be bothered by what other people are doing? Instead of waking up groggy and confused, struggling to get through your day, a balanced lifestyle can have you springing to life in the morning, ready to face the day with purpose, and willing to let the little stuff go. If you’re actively involved in a wellness plan that focuses on all areas of your personal wellness, you’re a lot less likely to blame the world for your problems because you’re a lot less likely to see your problems as problems to begin with.

What is wellness, and how can you increase yours so that anger doesn’t get you going? Balanced wellness involves a variety of factors, or Aspects of Wellness. Each of these has an effect on our anger levels and how we feel. Want a happier life? Start with the fundamentals of each Aspect of Wellness, and watch your anger dissipate.

Physical Wellness: Ever heard someone say that they’re in a bad mood and going for a run? They know that Physical Wellness—what we eat, how much we move, how much we sleep and how much we relax—has a serious effect on our emotional wellness. Just start with the basics. Get enough sleep, regular physical activity, and proper nutrition, and your moods will be more balanced. When your moods are more balanced, mild irritations like getting cut off won’t be such a big deal—and you’ll be less likely to read too much into the actions of others, which can often lead to unnecessary anger.

Emotional Wellness: Obviously, anger is a part of your Emotional Wellness. Learning anger management skills and assertiveness will help you deal with anger that is justified. When you’re focusing on your Emotional Wellness for anger, it’s important to first learn how to identify your angry emotions. Sometimes, when we feel angry, we’re not completely sure what set us off or even whom we’re really mad at.

Emotional Wellness is all about getting in touch with our emotions so that we can direct them appropriately and handle them ourselves. In the case of anger, it’s also important to learn how to monitor our self-talk so that we can realize it when we’re overreacting. When you’re in a bad mood—saying negative things to yourself and looking for a reason to be angry—you’re more likely to be thrown off balance into anger.

Occupational Wellness: Besides office arguments, what does Occupational Wellness have to do with anger management? When we’re unhappy or dissatisfied with where we are in life, we’re more likely to be upset with everything else. If you’re not paying attention to your own Occupational Wellness, you’re also more likely to blame someone else for your unhappiness or dissatisfaction. Take time to regularly check in on your Occupational Wellness. Are you happy with where you are? Are there steps you could take to make your current job more satisfying? Are you in need of a career change? These are important questions to ask yourself because, when you’re living your dreams, you’re going to be too busy being happy to get set off by anger.

Environmental Wellness: Take a walk in the great outdoors! This is a great way to curb your anger. When you’re appreciating your environment, it’s hard to stay angry. This is true about your indoor environment as well. Great self-care includes keeping your house, car, and workspace clean and tidy. Ever been searching for something and couldn’t find it because your house was too messy? Didn’t that irritate you and send you into anger? Cut back on these minor annoyances before they build into big time anger by paying attention to your Environmental Wellness. Cleaning the house can be a great way to redirect your energy when something’s bothering you.

Social Wellness: Obviously, your Social Wellness is going to be affected by your anger. When it comes to Social Wellness and anger, it’s important to pay attention to your communication skills. Holding anger in isn’t always the best way to go. Sometimes problems need to be discussed. At the same time, blowing up isn’t going to help, either. Give yourself a chance to blow off some steam and cool down before confronting others. Learning to communicate assertively with those you love will help you manage your anger and work toward a resolution. Learning when to let things go is another, very important Social Wellness skill.

Intellectual Wellness: Exploring your Intellectual Wellness gives life a richer texture, and, when your life is rich and fulfilling, you’re not going to want to bother with being bothered. Take some time each day to learn something new. Share that new information with a friend and you’ll find a new sense of connection.

Spiritual Wellness: Spiritual Wellness can do a lot to curb your anger. One of the main tenets of Spiritual Wellness is compassion. Seeing that we’re all one and that we all have our own troubles and triumphs makes it a lot harder to be angry with someone when they step on your toes. Instead, you’ll be able to put yourself in those shoes that just stepped on your toes and see why they might’ve done what they’ve done. Offering this kind of understanding to our fellow man goes a long way toward fostering interpersonal peace and harmony—the opposites of anger. Spiritual Wellness gives us a chance to gain perspective and look at the bigger picture. When our focus changes in this way, we see that getting upset is the problem—not all the things that keep upsetting us. A characteristic of Spiritual Wellness is the knowledge that, often, the best thing to do when we’re experiencing tension is to let it go.

Creating a wellness plan that includes some focus on each of these 7 Aspects of Wellness may or may not directly work on your anger, but they will all lessen your anger in one way or another. The bonus is that a wellness plan helps you live your dreams, be healthier, and have a more fulfilling life.

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