i'm totally mortified...i don't even know where to start...i guess i'll just start with this weekend.........................................god i hate this...i'm playing it over and over in my head...i was at a company picnic on saturday. everyone was there. all the "big wigs" from around the country were there...all my coworkers, their families, kids...i got a little bit too drunk and started talking about my boss to a coworker...i didn't realize how loud i had gotten and everyone heard me talking about how much of an ass he was...i talked about how he couldn't do anything right......and he overheard everything, along with his wife and their kids...i feel like such a fool now...i've called in sick the past two days but i have to go back tomorrow...i don't know what to do!!! please someone help!!!

Frank,

First, I want to ask yourself: What's the worst thing that can happen?

I am guessing you'd say you will get fired. Not really so bad if you think about it, especially since you said your boss is an a**.


The bottom line, though, is that you did say those things about your boss, and he, along with your other coworkers heard you. I won't beat around the bush -- it's possible you might get fired. The question is , how important is this job to you? Then again, you might not get fired. As a manager myself, i have seen this same scenario go down (did not involve the booze though) and nothing happened to the employee. You, as an employee, did not really violate any company policies (i am guessing), so you should be ok from the standpoint of job termination. You never know though.

Insofar as being embarrased goes -- if your boss is really an a-hole, then chances are that the rest of your coworkers feel the same way. and quietly, they are probably glad you said it!

You're eventually going to have to return to work (or perhaps you're considering just quitting over this?). If you do, in fact, go back to work, the only thing you can do is accept what happened. It's done. Everyone knows how you feel about your boss, even your boss.

I guess, my advice is, if you go back to work, just do your job. If the boss calls you in, you can always apologize for the fact that you said those things in front of his wife and kids and your coworkers (lol, it's kind of funny when you think about it). However, you need to decide if you should apologize to HIM for saying those things. Is he really an a-hole? are you going to tell him that you didn't mean it when you actually did?

But, no matter how embarrassed you get -- just ask yourself : What's the worst thing that can happen?

Trust me, no matter what happens at work, you'll live. and if you have to, you'll find a new job.

I am ot sure if this post helps you in any way. I just found it interesting because there have been many company parties where i would've loved to have called my boss an a-hole. Let's be honest, people talk smack about their bosses on a regular basis, in every company on the planet. It just so happens that your boss overheard you. So what - he'll get over it - and it might make him into less of an a-hole (doubtful) and you'll be stronger for it.

Good luck Frank.

Stefford

I'd quit for sure!! Either that, or go in and tell your boss you have a problem with alcohol and that it had nothing to do with him.

Yeah, but what if he meant it and it did have everything to do with his boss?

The fact is, that if you have a horrible boss he/she can literally make your life a living hell, in and out of work. It begins to affect not only your work life, but your mental health and everything else in your life.

IMO, if the guy really is an a-hole, then who cares if alcohol was involved. Unless Frank is an alcoholic, he does not need to admit he has a problem with alcohol.

In Vino Veritas!

Stefford

my best friend is a recovering alcoholic frank. one of the signs of problem drinking and alcoholism is doing and saying things you regret the next day. frank's boss may very well be an a**hole stefford, but I really need to ask you frank: would you say that about him so capriciously (ie not caring about the volume of your voice based on your surroundings) had you not been drinking? my guess is probably not. in that case, i'd lay off the booze at company functions in the future (which i'm sure just goes without saying at this point).

there's nothing you can do to take back what happened so put your foot in your mouth, apologize if that's what it's going to take, grovel if you really need the job and your boss is acting like he is going to fire you or like others have said just quit!! you have a few different choices here and although none of them are as good as the whole thing having not happened at all, it's what you got on the table right now. i always find that my problem is not that something bad has happened but how bad i tell myself that thing actually is. come to mention it, i should really take my own advice with a situation in my life.

well, it's been a pretty stressful week this week but i'm just keeping on...my boss was out of town the last half of last week and i think that helped me feel more at ease at work...he hasn't said anything to me about it what happened since he's been back...i don't want to say anything to him but i cringe just hearing his name...should i say something or should i wait for him to say something...i really don't want to say anything about it...out of site out of mind is what a friend told me...she said if he doesn't say anything that i shouldn't say anything...

Frank,

It's good to hear that there hasn't been a blow out at your office in the last week since this happened.

honestly, i am not sure what i would do in your spot, but i kind of like your friend's advice.

However, i think eventually this will come to a head. At the same time, though, I don't think you should stress too much over it. Whatever happens will happen, and that's all we really know.

(how vague was that? )

Have a great week at work bud.

Steff