I am 19 years old and have had off and on depression episodes since I was a young teen. I worry so such every day to the point where it affects my relationships. I constantly worry about everything any decision throughout the day, even small ones. What if I do the wrong thing? What if someone gets mad? Sometimes I worry and feel helpless and don’t even know why. My boyfriend says he doesn’t know how to help me anymore because whatever he does never works and never seems to make me feel better. I always push myself away from people and I never know who to trust and I’m afraid I’m going to lose my boyfriend because of it. I frustrate him so much with my anxiety and make him feel useless for not being able to make me feel better. I always say the wrong things and am never able to truly empress how I feel to anyone. I was reading a lot of the others thing people have posted and its very reassuring that there are other people out there who understand. I never thought anyone could understand. I think part of my problem is letting go of the past and all of the what ifs, should haves, and could haves. My parent’s splint when I was young and I have not had a healthy relationship with anyone since, not with friends, boyfriends, and even most of my family members. I don’t want to worry and feel helpless or alone. It is interfering with every aspect of my life. If anyone has advice on how to let go and let people in so get rid of the anxiety, please let me know.

Hi Molly,

I would suggest really trying to take control of your thoughts and redirecting them more positively when you start to worry. I am assuming that much of your worry is because you are thinking that the worst possible outcome is going to occur in a situation.

How about next time you start to worry ask yourself some questions like:-

- Can you prove that your thought is completely true? Ie: that the outcome you are worrying about is really going to happen.

- Is this worrying going to make anything good happen - or is it just going to make me feel worse.

- What would you say to your friends and family who were worrying about the same thing?

- What is a better way of looking at the situation?

- What is the best possible outcome of this situation?

I know a lot of what I have said is easier said than done, but it is really helpful to try and train your mind to think more positively in situations. Constantly thinking of the negative is only going to make your anxiety worse. Think about situations you have worried about in the past. What has been the outcome? Was it as bad as what your mind told you it was going be when you were worrying? Chances are, it probably wasn't.

Trusting yourself and your decisions is also helpful in decreasing some of your anxiety - Especially about worrying about the "what if's". As the old saying goes "worry about what you can change and do not worry about what you can't".

I hope this helps.

Wishing you all the best.
Cassie

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Thank you so much Cassie! Your advice is very helpful!

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