hi all .. i have a lot to say so plz read with patience
i am feeling v depressed for a long time now...more than 2 yrs ...
i m 24 ..female ..wrking as a sw engg in a v reputed mnc...and earning quite gud
i have alws been an introvert kid...rather serious studious types...and though not v intelligent but
because of my hard work managed to score quite well in school...got thru engineering and then
landed up in a v prestigious organisation...
but since i hv come into professional world the stress has almost become 10 times...
there r many pressures..the pressure to perfom well both professionally and on the social front too
i find myself inadequate in every respect...some how i feel that any moment i will be chucked out
of my job for not performing up to the high standards set for the organisation..
my supervisor has alws given me good ratings for my work..he dsnt seem to have any problem with me..
then also i m not given challenging work....sometimes i feel i dnt have any worth in the organisation..ie my presence or lack of it has no value...i feel demotivated...
on top of that i m begining to develop social phobia...i know i ws alws a little shy and introvert but not phobic....a constant fear grips me alws...unknown fear... i m losing touch of reality day by day..
feel anxious and detached in groups..sometimes my mind goes blank as soon as somebdy approaches me and asks me something... i know its crazy but i feel i will not be able to properly hear and understand what the other person is about to say and needless to say that happens eventually...i have to ask ppl to repeat what they are saying/asking..i feel embarrassed and stupid....
i know i am not stupid....i am smart..intelligent..but then y is this happening to me....i feel i m losing my brain..i can not organize my thoughts and speak coherently many times...so before speaking i have to carefully think and revise what i am going to say to avoid embarrasment..its v hard on me...and sometimes i wish i were deaf and dumb...
can anybdy help/provide any solution...or some gmail id.....i badly want to share my experiences with somebdy who may b going thru the same phase...
Full Version: Social Phobia..??
There is a syndrome the name of which escapes me where a person feels that they have got their position at work by means of accident or a mistake. In general these people are in fact exactly the right person for their job. the feeling of inadequacy is due to the intelligence of that person. someone not capable would be unable to see pitfalls. i had this feeling for a while when teaching... i had to constantly review the children's positive results and talk myself up, after some time this began to sink in my feelings of inadequacy diminished and i started to regain my positive self image.
i feel that the social side of things has got bad for the same reason perhaps. have an excuse for people to repeat themselves, have reasons ready to give yourself time to think. sorry i was thinking of something else... say again i missed the first bit etc,etc, if you say you need time to get the person an answer then they will be happy that you are taking time to give the problem some serious thought. also ask what they think the answer might be, often people know but need to hit off someone else.
i have always been shy and i found the best way out of it was to tell people that i am (or was) exceedingly shy so give me a break smile smile smile! it didn't always work but when it was important it did good luck, think positive, remember that it took an extremely positive person to get where you are today. look up brain gym that has some handy ideas for helping the concentration, play pelmanism that is a good concentration game (pack of cards turned over, you have to find pairs by turning up 2 cards at a time. eventually you start to remember where the cards are hidden.)
i feel that the social side of things has got bad for the same reason perhaps. have an excuse for people to repeat themselves, have reasons ready to give yourself time to think. sorry i was thinking of something else... say again i missed the first bit etc,etc, if you say you need time to get the person an answer then they will be happy that you are taking time to give the problem some serious thought. also ask what they think the answer might be, often people know but need to hit off someone else.
i have always been shy and i found the best way out of it was to tell people that i am (or was) exceedingly shy so give me a break smile smile smile! it didn't always work but when it was important it did good luck, think positive, remember that it took an extremely positive person to get where you are today. look up brain gym that has some handy ideas for helping the concentration, play pelmanism that is a good concentration game (pack of cards turned over, you have to find pairs by turning up 2 cards at a time. eventually you start to remember where the cards are hidden.)
QUOTE(Romahenry @ Feb 11 2008, 04:30 PM) 
There is a syndrome the name of which escapes me where a person feels that they have got their position at work by means of accident or a mistake. In general these people are in fact exactly the right person for their job. the feeling of inadequacy is due to the intelligence of that person. someone not capable would be unable to see pitfalls. i had this feeling for a while when teaching... i had to constantly review the children's positive results and talk myself up, after some time this began to sink in my feelings of inadequacy diminished and i started to regain my positive self image.
i feel that the social side of things has got bad for the same reason perhaps. have an excuse for people to repeat themselves, have reasons ready to give yourself time to think. sorry i was thinking of something else... say again i missed the first bit etc,etc, if you say you need time to get the person an answer then they will be happy that you are taking time to give the problem some serious thought. also ask what they think the answer might be, often people know but need to hit off someone else.
i have always been shy and i found the best way out of it was to tell people that i am (or was) exceedingly shy so give me a break smile smile smile! it didn't always work but when it was important it did good luck, think positive, remember that it took an extremely positive person to get where you are today. look up brain gym that has some handy ideas for helping the concentration, play pelmanism that is a good concentration game (pack of cards turned over, you have to find pairs by turning up 2 cards at a time. eventually you start to remember where the cards are hidden.)
i feel that the social side of things has got bad for the same reason perhaps. have an excuse for people to repeat themselves, have reasons ready to give yourself time to think. sorry i was thinking of something else... say again i missed the first bit etc,etc, if you say you need time to get the person an answer then they will be happy that you are taking time to give the problem some serious thought. also ask what they think the answer might be, often people know but need to hit off someone else.
i have always been shy and i found the best way out of it was to tell people that i am (or was) exceedingly shy so give me a break smile smile smile! it didn't always work but when it was important it did good luck, think positive, remember that it took an extremely positive person to get where you are today. look up brain gym that has some handy ideas for helping the concentration, play pelmanism that is a good concentration game (pack of cards turned over, you have to find pairs by turning up 2 cards at a time. eventually you start to remember where the cards are hidden.)
Hi Romahenry
Thanks a lot for ur reply..it ws really v hlpful..i especially liked
that part "remember that it took an extremely positive person to get where you are today"
ws a gr8 mood uplifter
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